Please: How Trying to Please Others Could Affect You

Please: How trying to Please others Could affect you

In today’s society, trying to please others has become the order of the day or should I say the normal thing. One can also refer to this as “eye service”.

To reach the top or get a promotion, people believe you need favour among other things. This is true but the way people go about it is wrong. Unfortunately, quite a number of people occupying top positions in various organizations are corrupt. For those who want to meet their standards, they are required to lose their integrity and sometimes, dine with the devil. This is so sad. If this continues, who then will save us?

Okay, enough with those at the top. It’s easy to blame those in higher positions but let’s come back to the smaller units e.g homes, workshops, places of worship, gathering of friends, etc. We can see that eye service is in every part of the society both big and small and the determining factor is ourselves.

Some Illustrations

In this time and age, one who needs a job has to be loyal to another irrespective of what bad luck may follow. A Male boss would need to sleep with his female worker to give her a better position. Some companies would recruit only those who are ready to join them in the secret society. People will say, “let’s just pretend to be good and obedient to this person when we get there, then it’s up to us to be in charge”. Are you sure this would work well?

I’ve seen people working tirelessly to please others with the hope of gaining a form of favour from them and at the end of the day, they get tossed away like paper. Eye service/ trying to please others is very stressful and not rewarding at all. What people don’t realize is, after you put so much effort to please someone and then you get turned down, this could destabilize one’s emotion. 

Also, if you are able to get what you desire through this eye service, there is a high possibility of you remaining indebted to such persons. They will always expect you to be in line with their decisions be it good or bad. There is no peace of mind.

Way Forward

To have peace of mind, integrity, and be able to stand for righteousness and the truth, one must desire favour from God. He is the original source.

Once God is with you and He favours you, He will also cause men to favour you and this type doesn’t have any strings attached. Men will be the ones begging that you accept their gifts. Read the stories of great men and women God has used in all spheres of life, not just in ministry.

What does God say about eye service? Ephesians 6: 5-6

5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;

6 Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;

We are told to be obedient to our masters not by doing eye service.

You don’t need any man or woman to favour you. You don’t need to know someone at the top to be favoured. It’s only God you need to know then all other things will fall into place. When you follow God and obey all His instructions, there won’t be any need to please anyone else. Pleasing God makes you at peace with men. When you please God, your integrity will be intact and there will be no fear in telling people the truth whether you receive favour from them or not because you recognize God as your source.

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Stay Blessed.

Oluchi.


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